When deciding what divorce process is best for one’s situation, mediation may be one of the processes considered. Mediation allows a divorcing couple to collaborate on a solution to divorce, support, property division, and custody issues outside of court, without relying on a judge to make these decisions. A personal and caring mediation environment may lead to a more harmonious resolution to domestic relations issues, which is why this divorce process is becoming increasingly popular.

One consideration to keep in mind about mediation is that each spouse may be more involved in the negotiations as compared to a traditional divorce. Granted, the mediation environment and one’s representation will provide the support they need, but each spouse will have a bigger part in the conversation. If one finds themselves in this situation, the below tips and strategies can help them be their best during the negotiations:

Have a Plan to Manage Stress – Before beginning the mediation process, develop a plan to help manage stress, which can help one feel more confident and prepared to handle the situation. One can perform a few stress management techniques to ensure their anxiety and stress levels do not get the best of them during these important conversations. Such techniques might include breathing exercises, meditation, and taking breaks during the mediation. Additionally, being fully prepared for the mediation, including having proper guidance from one’s attorney can also lessen or eliminate the stress of the mediation. 

Understand Your Goals – It is important for a spouse to understand their goals going into a divorce so they are clear on what they want and what is important to them. Having this ironed out before the process begins can make one feel more organized or better focused on the issues at hand. A part of this may also include being prepared to let go of certain items that one does not have control over.

Think Through Your Spouse’s Goals – Along the same lines of thinking through one’s own goals, one should consider what they anticipate their spouse’s goals and interests being. Having these thought processes ahead of time, and with an experienced attorney on one’s side, can make a big difference when the negotiations begin so one can be as ready as possible to discuss their case.

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Understand Your State’s Laws – Familiarizing oneself with the laws and what is allowed and not allowed can set one up for success so they do not have unrealistic expectations. This can also allow one to adjust their goals and be more prepared to achieve them.

A divorce settled via mediation may be less stressful and done in a more relaxed environment, but it can still involve negotiations and a significant amount of back and forth in reaching a final resolution. Like we mentioned above, one does not have to go through the divorce process alone if taking the mediation approach. They can still have, and should have, an experienced attorney by their side to help guide them. In addition to the support of an attorney, the above tips for negotiation can make one’s divorce case even stronger and help the process go more smoothly. Are you approaching a divorce and need someone to help guide you through the steps to protect yourself and your family? If so, our attorneys who are well-versed in all family law matters can help. Contact us now to set up a consultation however it is most convenient for you—via telephone, video, or in person.

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